I recently read about a screening of Miss Representation. This indie movie, in its own words, “explores how the media’s misrepresentations of women have led to the underrepresentation of women in positions of power and influence.”

Mmmm’kay, but I don’t think we can blame the media for every woman’s position.

Take me, for example, ’cause it’s my blog and I can:

As I type, baby snot is drying on my right forearm.

I changed my hair color from platinum blonde to  brunette four days ago, and my husband still has not noticed.

A piece of dried fettuccine fell out of my bra last night when I was getting ready for bed.

Bedtime is in the guest room. My husband is working deals on three continents and we don’t want Dragon Girl’s night feedings to interrupt the few hours he can sleep between timezones.

Plus, let’s note, said bedtime is only kicking off the night shift, which begins when I am done with a 12-hour day of providing cheese slices, making sure the Correct Top is on the Correct Sippy Cup, and pretending amazed delight at my preschooler’s prowess at jumping onto her beanbag:  “Mooom! WATCH what I CAN DO!”

Yep, definitely exploring the bottom of the “power and influence” heap nowadays.

According to any major indicator, I shouldn’t be.

I have a graduate degree. I hold professional licenses in two jurisdictions.

I was second-in-command of a multimillion dollar service business in Florida. I had direct career paths open into politics, law, and the judiciary.

And yet, here I sit, baby snot and all, honestly quite content with my life. Enough so, in fact, that I taught my older daughter a litany about it:

What is Mom’s work?”

HE’EN’s work is Mom’s work!”

“And does Mom love her job?”

“YESSSS!”

It’s OK: Today’s Takeaways

  • Working inside the home does not mean you’re confused, lazy, or un-empowered.
  • Working outside the home does not mean you’re confused, selfish, or mal-prioritized.
  • There’s enough judgment going ’round without judging yourself in either regard.
  • Do your best work, whatever that work may be.
  • Remind your children that your best work is important to you, whether that’s in or out of the home.
  • Lead by example, and your children will learn to take pride in what they do.